I recently stumbled on a post on LinkedIn and discovered something about myself. I’m not a victim! No one owes me anything, and where I’m headed in life is 100% up to me. My life is the way it is because I set it up that way- the good, the bad, and the ugly! It just is what it is, and I really do see it that way. I rarely ask “why me” and I sometimes think, “why not me, what makes me so different from anyone else?”
The one thing I know for sure is that life is going to hand you curveballs! What they say is true in that it comes down to how you handle the curveballs-because they are for sure coming! It’s just a matter of when, and what they look like.
Here’s how I get through the challenge: First I say to life, “thank you.” Thank you for the opportunity to find out what I’m capable of, and what I’m made of! Life, the Universe, or what I like to call God, has never given me more than I can handle, and frankly God must think I’m a total badass!!! I feel as if I’ve experienced the worst that life can dish up. There isn’t much I haven’t faced, with the exception of an unexpected death of someone near and dear to me, and for that I’m really thankful!
My life isn’t easier or harder than yours, but it’s mine and it’s meant for me. Just like your life and your journey is meant for you. When life gives you the most difficulty, stand tall and remind yourself that “you’ve got this!” And don’t ever give up! You may surprise yourself with what you’re capable of when you’re pushed to your own limits.
I can promise you that sitting around sulking, having a pity party, or what I like to call the PLOM party (poor little old me), never helped anyone out of a sticky or difficult situation. The people who stand tall during the most difficult times, accept what is, and focus on problem solving, are having a better life experience than those who consider themselves victims. A victim feels powerless over his/her experiences. I beg to differ, we all have choices.
Your best life is just on the other side of what challenges you. It’s going to wake you up and give you the opportunity to make the best choices so that you can come out the other side. The secret is to always go “through” it…trust me.